Confidence was crucial when I was was playing competative sports. Those with unshakeable confidence typically were most successful. So, what came first, the chicken or the egg? Were they confident because they were good or were they great because they were confident? You did catch that change in wording, right? I believe when someone is good at something they can gain a certain level of confidence, but to truly be great, I believe you must be confident first.
Thank goodness I am not actually here to debate that issue!
I do want to talk about confidence and its importance in being successful in our every day lives. I don’t know that anyone would deny that the more confident we are the better we set ourselves up for success.
So, how do we go about building confidence?
7 Steps to Building Confidence
1. Fill your head with positive thoughts and images and then think on them and speak them out loud.
Our thoughts and words have tremendous power! Speak affirmations! Use strong words when you talk about yourself and what you want to do and be. Stop shrinking! Affirm what you want and who you want to be daily!
Visualize success! When you can truly see and feel it, you are better equipped to reach it. What you see will become your reality, so see yourself as strong and confident. See yourself as being successful. See yourself achieving your goals!
2. Keep showing up, especially when things are hard. Action will build confidence!
Start by showing up for the things you enjoy in life. Showing up every day and taking some sort of action reminds you of things you are capable of. As you are more comfortable with that, start doing things that you find more challenging and things that may scare you. Don’t stress out about being awesome at them, just keep showing up and doing them! Taking action will continue to grow your confidence.
3. Set small goals along the way that you can achieve and celebrate on your way to bigger goals.
Goals and Goal setting are HUGE. It is important to set goals that are challenging and that scare you a little, but it’s important to also break those goals down into smaller, more manageable chunks.
As you achieve some of your smaller goals you will gain confidence and momentum to keep moving forward.
4. Be aware of and continually work on your posture (body language).
Social psychologist Amy Cuddy revealed, in her 2012 TED talk, that standing or sitting with certain poses for as little two minutes raises testosterone levels and lowers cortisol (the stress hormone).
When was the last time you took a deep breath and sat up straight with your head held high? Do that next time you have to make a tough phone call or send out a hard message. That small change in your posture gives you a better feeling of confidence.
If you really want to feel like a bad a$$, stand in the wonder woman pose before difficult conversations!
5. Faith it til you make it and Act the part.
Don’t just fake it til you make it, but faith it. Know you will get where you want to be! Act the part. If you don’t feel confident, pretend you are. Stand like you are, talk like you are, ACT like you are! It is amazing how playing the part will help your confidence grow!
6. Stop comparing yourself with others.
"Comparison is the thief of joy.” Well, it’s also the killer of confidence! Comparing yourself with others may have you start second guessing yourself or feeling less than you are, so just stop it now. Don't do it!
7. Surround yourself with Confident People.
Who you spend time with matters. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with! If you want to increase your confidence, start spending time with people that are confident!
Confidence is important! Confidence helps us push past our fears and leads to decisive action. It helps us perform better and can even improve our relationships! It's time to start paying attention to our confidence levels and continually look to increase them!
I am a former dual sport collegiate athlete sharing my story, how you can gain strength, confidence and discipline too, and how I apply lessons learned from competative sports and how to turn them into real life success.